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I retunred to Brooklyn tonight to some unexpected news. One of my good friends from college, we’ll call him the Red Head, returned a call I had made to him back on Tuesday night.
While in Ireland for the holiday, he was met with the kind of news you can never be prepared for. His mother, who had fought a long battle with cancer, died on Thanksgiving Day. He was flying from his home in Los Angeles tonight to be with his family in Minessotta.
So many thoughts are running through my head. I want to be there for him. I am wracked with guilt that I can’t just walk up to him, give him a hug, be there for him. I literally can not imagine what he’s going through right there right now. His mother was a wonderful woman who I wish I had known better. i met her only once or twice, the last time being a 4 day trip to the family’s cabin on the St. Croix river. She was the matriarch of a large family, who tonight must mourn in ways I can’t fathom.
I want to be there for The Red Head. I want to let him know I love him. I want to let him know I would do ANYTHING to help him through this. Even when I know he knows all that.
And in light of all this, I want to let my mother know I love her. More than anything. I called her twice tonight to tell her that. I just wanted to say it again.
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Miles From Fenway 
It was hard enough dealing with the loss of my Nana. I cannot fathom losing my mother.
As for how to ‘be there’ for The Red Head, just keep doing what you’ve been doing. Be his friend just like you’ve always been.
At times like this, it’s the little things that speak volumes.
Comment by Miss Browneyedgirlie November 28, 2005 @ 1:37 pmI agree. I only met The Red Head once when we were redecorating that old apartment. From the few hours I spent with him then and all the stories you’ve told, I think you should just keep letting him know that you’re there if he needs anything. He knows you love him and care about him, and that’s really all you can do.
Comment by Esther November 28, 2005 @ 3:10 pmHow horrible. I cannot imagine the pain he must be experiencing. He is lucky to have you as a friend.
Comment by Meegan November 28, 2005 @ 3:43 pmGood post, Finy. I’m calling my mommy tonight…
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